As some of you know, I’m now in the middle of the intensive and disappointing process of “house hunting” which means I have to perform each day, just as “The presentation of the Self” explains.
The search of a new home involves always the expression of my character, the awareness of my needs and the definition of the presence. Like any kind of virtual exchange, this process involves many events concerning (tele)presence of oneself in contact with the (tele)presence of the others. I would like to analyze these from a different point of view, a reversed timeline, through which the start will be the end and with the end we will start.
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Congratulations! You’ve got a “cozy” (or I should say tiny) room in a decent apartment. The rent is affordable and the location is not bad. The roommates…well you don’t know them yet, but they seem easy-going and clean. Quite normal people. You didn’t have many choices though. You have to trust them and trust your first perceptions. This is anyway an unbalanced situation so you just have a mental picture made of the short information you read in the description they posted, and what they told you during the short interview. They have instead a complete profile with facts of your life, the remarkable aspects of your personality and the involuntary expression of both your presence and your telepresence. They can trust you. They should.
During the interview with your potential roommates, you talked about your interests, your hobbies and the time you spend at school. They wanted to confirm some things. They wanted to experience your presence. They wanted to have enough information to be able to trust you. They didn’t ask for references, but if they had them, they would be even more confident. Of course you could have lied them, but it would be pointless. You were going to live with them for a long term, and anyway the probably would have notice something’s wrong. Human senses are very sophisticated: the brain processes consciously or unconsciously the information they receive and generates feelings and reactions.
After some conversations you couldn’t get much information of the person you talked with. His presence is now to general and it can recall many different people. Perhaps the number of words, the use of the language… the contents of the dialogue were to specific to infer anything. This is no key step in the construction of the presence of an individual and the necessary trust. It’s just an arrangement to meet with unknown but apparently trustworthy people.
Only one click, and you received some more posts, offering apartments to share…you found one which seemed affordable! It also described a bit about the personality of the roommates and what they were looking for… The ad was long, they seemed talkative… and even though they could have been anyone in this city!
The first thing to do was thinking about my own…what I was doing here, some facts of my life, and a bit about myself and the image that I wanted to project. I needed to be conscious not only of my presence but also about the presence I wanted the others to perceive and the telepresence linked to these. Controlling my own expression trough email was very easy. I could show my letter to some friends and follow their advisement to correct not only the formal language but also the contents that should recall the presence of the ideal roommate. I was creating an avatar of my presence. It didn’t need to be accurate, just efficient for the purposes it was supposed to achieve.
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The more trust we want to have, the more information we need. The telepresence must be somehow tangible, in order to become reliable. The diversity of the sources is also very important. As well as their credibility. However some questions still remain. How much do we want to control the presentation of ourselves knowing that also another people could do the same? Should we create media to track every aspect of our presence and increase the awareness of our expressions? Is the common agreement the most reliable source to trust someone? Would it be possible to abolish some of our social rules in order to strengthen everyone’s personality or are they too important to keep the safety and the collective sense of trust?
To increase the reliability we need a system to get more information about one individual using alternative sources. Some work already, like the credit check, or the reference letters. However, there must be a way to use the ranking system used commercial environments such as Amazon or Ebay to build a community of people who talk about a former roommate to keep his/her profile. I would be a mash up of sites like craigslist, roommates.com, or facebook. Or it could also be an application for this last one in order to put it in relation with the other to get a more enriched view over the profile of someone.
Again I wonder, do we really wanted? I guess the answer would belong however not to the concepts of trust and presence, but to the field of privacy and surveillance.