My third place, and god save the bartenders
I have been reading “The Great Good Place” for a while, and I like thinking along reading the book, since I found myself in my happy own world of drinks and bars and waitresses since I come to NYC. However I am not that much pessimistic about the situation in America as Ray Oldenburg is (though the reason might be that I only know NYC may god bless the city).
I believe one of the most important things that make a bar/cafe a third place is the host/owner/waiter/bartender (I will call them ‘host’ for the rest of the text). Besides being embedded to our first impressions on the place, their welcoming attitude, friendliness define the place a lot. In the book there are a lot of emphasize on the regulars of the place, and I think the ethnicity, age, and related demographics of the regulars are also defined by the hosts; this might result the regulars being over 35 married-with-children baseball followers, or being very diverse as of age, gender, etc.. I don’t agree that such places would always be levelers and the rules of homophily in social networks would still be valid.
The reason I would emphasize the importance of the host is that, regulars who would define the general mood of the space are always welcomed by the host in their first visit to their place. A new visitor finds the host as the only (and hence the first) person to initiate a conversation, since a path of communication already exists as ‘ordering’. The mood of this communication between the host and the visitor highly defines if the visitor would become a regular, and also the attitude and mood of the person after becoming a regular. Hosts may also provide a good communication path between the customers, in doing a soft introduction among regulars and new visitors.
As it is mentioned in the book, I believe the ‘home other than home’ aspect is quite in place. One thing that really impressed me was the time when I was confident enough to know that the host(s) would take care of me if I got blacked out or similar would happen.
Going back to Telepresence, that would have been interesting to think of a project that would provide a connection between home and the third place of a regular. In many American TV shows (mostly comedy; friends, how I met your mother, seinfeld, etc..) in which the third place are also the places not so different from home, we can see that such setting wouldn’t create much difference in the events that would happen; third places are proven to be as homey places as the homes of the characters. So it makes me think of something that could immerse these two places; blinking leds at home for each glass of my favorite that is consumed at my bar, free ordering of a whiskey at the bar when my credit card bills are dropped into my mailbox. interesting…